Katharine Hepburn at Dick Cavett's

Mann says:
And so, once again, Kate Hepburn - struggling against her atoms - deferred to her ideal of a real man. "You see," she told Dick Cavett in 1973, " a woman can give a man enormous confidence." No comment on what a man might give a woman.

But what she said was:
You see, a woman can give a man enormous confidence. And we all lack it. Or a man can give a woman enormous confidence, and stay at home and do the cooking. Somebody's gotta give somebody some confidence somewhere. There is not just one way to kill a cat. There are many ways that are open, but you can't have it all. You cannot have it all. And this notion that you can have it all, you can't have it all.