Katharine Hepburn at Dick Cavett's III

Mann says:
....Not simply a liberated woman who'd lived by her on rules, Hepburn was a figure quite apart of the norm. "I am a missing link", she admited to Cavett. " I don't belong anywhere". Considered from this vantage point, her relationships with women might also be better understood.

But she said:

No, no - yeah, I think so, I mean you're one of a group - you're one of a group, so that you don't go away from that. You know, you remain the sister - in my instance, I remain the older sister, I remain "Aunt Kat" to practically all of them. 'Cause I was sort of a loner, so I was "Aunt Kat". Even to my sisters - not to my brothers but to my sisters, who are like my daughers, I'm a missing...link. I am, I don't belong anywhere, I'm like my father and mother's - I don't know what, the extra...one, you know. But I wasn't a child, I was...it was a funny arrangement

Katharine Hepburn at Dick Cavett's II

Mann says:
So she them a legend instead. To Dick Cavett she admited she tended "to embroider" the accounts she tolds of her life...

But She had told:
Well, when - see, I don' stick to the subject, you see, I embroider it - when I went out to California, I was on a train and it took three or four days to get there, in those days, and I went out on the back of the platform to look at the moon, and I got a steel filling in one eye, which inmediately became bright red, and had a piece of filling embedded in the white of the eye.....

Katharine Hepburn at Dick Cavett's

Mann says:
And so, once again, Kate Hepburn - struggling against her atoms - deferred to her ideal of a real man. "You see," she told Dick Cavett in 1973, " a woman can give a man enormous confidence." No comment on what a man might give a woman.

But what she said was:
You see, a woman can give a man enormous confidence. And we all lack it. Or a man can give a woman enormous confidence, and stay at home and do the cooking. Somebody's gotta give somebody some confidence somewhere. There is not just one way to kill a cat. There are many ways that are open, but you can't have it all. You cannot have it all. And this notion that you can have it all, you can't have it all.